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My girlfriend won’t stop smoking weed, what can i say to make her stop?

after a year of going out she tried weed with some friends of hers and now has smoked handful of times since then which has ben a year.. I dont smke and it bothers me when she does it. besides that shes perfect tho what can i say to her that will make her stop?

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if she can’t give up smoking in general, tell her to substitute with less affecting smokes like tobacco ar legal herbal smoking mixtures – a well known quit smoking solution from ancient times.

Yeah Pot is a very potent and it’s an illegal substance in US.

Many things been said and many opinions exist about legalizing it or not?

As of right now its still an open , undecided question ( some would wish it would be as simple as Yahoo.Answers;) )

For those of you seeking for new spiritual experiences I would recommend a Legal Herbal Smoking of such herbs as Salvia, Kanna, Wild Dagga, etc;)

Hope this will help;)

First off, I can tell you that weed is something that can either be a serious problem or something completely benign in a person’s life. It depends on why they smoke it. Back when I was your age, I was alarmed whenever I learned about someone being a pot-smoker. I was worried that I was basically talking to a person who is gambling with their life, and that they were going to end up dead before too long. That or they were gonna end up neck deep in criminal activity, in jail or the victim of a crime. The thing is, as i got older, I realized that more and more that the things parents and teachers tell you about drugs are basically meant to scare you away from them, not practice any measure of caution. It is not to dissimilar to a person telling a baby “Don’t touch this. It’s hot!” just because the don’t want their baby playing with it. It’s a flat out lie instead of just telling you “this is something I don’t think you should use, because I don’t think you can handle it. I myself choose not to smoke weed, though I have come to realize that just about everyone does it occasionally. Some more than others. And there are a lot of people who see smoking a joint as no different than having a beer. The truth is, practically everyone, including the teachers that are telling you not to use it, are doing so because they have either been ordered to by the authorities or feel obligated to simplify the danger of it. What it comes down to is a personal choice. One that I am not certain a 14 year old is mature enough to handle. However, not all Marijuana is equal, and there is not just one reason to smoke it. Your girlfriend may experience migraines or panic attacks, and just a couple of puffs on a joint can take them away. She might have insomnia and has resorted to smoking a little before bed so she can fall asleep. She may be anorexic, and the only thing that helps her keep a healthy appetite is a little weed to make her hungry and not care so much about her perceived appearance. On the other hand, she might have some supposedly bad thing in her life she may be trying to escape from. She might smoke weed because she is bored, or sad, angry, self-destructive, or maybe she likes the idea that when she’s high, she’s temporarily released from responsibility. What I can say is that once a person has decided they either like or need weed, there is little to nothing you can do to change their mind. You cannot make someone quit. They have to decide on their own if it’s a good idea. If you do somehow convince a girl you are dating to quit for you, there is a chance she will, and there is a chance she will just stop smoking it around you and won’t tell you when she has been doing it. Also, if for some reason you two get into a big fight, she is probably gonna go out and light one up just to spite you. And you better believe that if you two break up, she’s going to go get baked out of her skull. So if you have a problem with her smoking pot, don’t fool yourself into thinking you can “save” her from it. It’s not something a person can be saved from, as it, in and of itself is not dangerous. Easily half a million people die a year from cigarette smoking. Not a single fatality occurs due to pot smoking. If people did die from it, the media outlets with anti-drug would see to it that each death was widely reported. So if you don’t want to date a girl who smokes pot, don’t date a girl who smokes pot. And that’s the best advice I can give.

If my boyfriend did that i would front him about it and say look this smoking weed has gone on for long enough now, you either stop smoking it or kiss my a** goodbye, because I am fed up with it and I don’t want to be in a relationship with someone who is a pothead. So its up to you to make the decision, me or the weed.

Well if you know she loves you, tell her you will break up with her if she doesn’t stop. Or, TALK. Tell her seriously to think about her health and help her get through it.

after a year of going out she tried weed with some friends of hers and now has smoked handful of times since then which has ben a year.. I dont smke and it bothers me when she does it. besides that shes perfect tho what can i say to her that will make her stop?

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This week we have a guy who doesn’t like that his girlfriend smokes weed, so he proposed to her.

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I’ve been with this girl for over a year, and no matter how much we compromise she continues to do what she claimed she wouldn’t. After New Year’s, it was her resolution to stop smoking weed, but she quickly changed her mind. I feel like it’s killing me every time she does it. She could not even talk to me after smoking the last time.

So, I took her to the place she spoke about when we first met, proposed, and put my heart and soul completely out there. I asked her to choose me or drugs, and I have yet to hear from her. She normally waits a few days to respond, but there’s only so much stress I can handle! And she claims I’m stressing her out with “my rules.” I feel as if I’m being manipulated, but I love her so much I’d do anything for her. Could she be taking my love, time, and trust for granted? Should I block all contact information, move on, and handle myself?

She’s broken my trust a lot in the past, whether it was her going out or doing things she had promised she would never do. She always comes back running into my arms, but she hasn’t texted me nor talked to me since yesterday, and it has me feeling as if she’s cheating or choosing a drug over me. I feel as if I’m walking through this blind and she’s being as belligerent as possible.

Sincerely,
Not So High Guy

Hey Not So High Guy:

You say it “kills you” each time she smokes weed, but I’m guessing since you’ve only been together for a year that she did this before you started dating. Did you go into this expecting her to change for you? Were you under some weird assumption you could “fix” her horrible non-addiction to a non-habit forming substance? Whether you pressured her into her resolution or not (it sounds like you did), it’s her resolution and she can do whatever she wants. It’s not her duty to try to squeeze into the mold you’ve set forth. She just doesn’t fit.

So you decided to propose. Wrong move, dude! You don’t like who she is, so you ask her to marry you? That doesn’t make any sense. Doubling down is not how you fix problems in a relationship! On top of that, your proposal was an ultimatum, and a pretty judgmental one at that. Instead of a sweet, romantic gesture, you offered her some kind of plea bargain deal. Like you’ll forgive her for her “transgressions” if she’s willing to live under your rule. No wonder she hasn’t responded yet. She’s not manipulating you, NSHG, and she’s not taking your love, time, or trust for granted. She probably just isn’t sure if she wants to marry someone who acts like her probation officer all the time, telling her what she can and can’t do for the rest of her life. Nobody wants that, even if you mean them well.

She’s more of a free spirit who likes to go out and get high every once in a while, and you’re more of a straight edge, good-clean-fun kinda guy. Both types of people are totally fine, but they rarely mix well. I mean, at this point she’s probably very aware that you don’t like her smoking weed, yet she continues to do it anyway. I’m thinkin’ thats your cue to move on, not push harder. Also, you clearly have some control issues that are worth addressing. Hell, you can’t even give her some space to think about your life-altering proposal/deal without assuming she’s off getting high and banging some other dude! Stop seeing everyone else as rule breakers that don’t adhere to your preferences and start seeing people for who they really are: imperfect beings that are just looking for someone to accept them. Some of them will be a good fit for you, and others won’t.

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